Trouble reaching orgasm
Never had an orgasm
Have you never had an orgasm? Don’t worry. Try playing with yourself and see if that helps. Men can try masturbating. Women can have an orgasm by fingering themselves. Having penetrative sex doesn’t always give a woman an orgasm. Women have an orgasm when their clitoris is touched too. You may have sex for months or years before ever having an orgasm.
It doesn’t happen with your partner
Some young people have an orgasm when they play with themselves, but not with a partner. How is that possible? It’s often to do with trust, being tense, not letting go, or the way you’re being touched. Talk to your sex partner and go on a voyage of discovery together. If you can do it yourself, you can teach your partner to as well.
5 Tips for an orgasm
- Go to the toilet before you start making love. Then you’ll be more relaxed.
- Do you notice you’ve stopped getting excited? Stick with it, often you have an orgasm shortly afterwards.
- Take your time. Don’t focus on having an orgasm, but on the wonderful sensations you’re feeling. If you overthink about an orgasm, it’s not going to happen.
- When you’re having sex, choose a position where the clitoris and the head of the penis get well stimulated.
- Don’t try to have an orgasm together! Hardly anyone has that.