Lesbian, gay, bisexual, straight
When you’re young, you often fantasize about someone you like. That could be a boy, but it could also be a girl. It might sometimes be a boy and at other times a girl. Who do you fancy? Who do you have fantasies about? Or maybe you’re just not sure who you are attracted to.
There are all kinds of things that two men can do for example, kissing/tonguing, caressing, male masturbation, fellatio and penetrative sex. When two men want to have penetrative sex, they do that anally.
Get tested every 6 months
Are you a man who has sex with men? Get yourself tested for HIV and other STIs once every six months.
There are all kinds of things that two women can do for example, kissing/tonguing, caressing, fingering or cunnilingus. If women want to have penetrative sex, they can do that with their fingers, a dildo or a vibrator. Vibrators and dildos are penis-shaped gadgets, made for having sex. Vibrators and dildos are similar but a dildo does not vibrate.
“Coming out would feel a weight coming off my shoulders. I would feel liberated.”
Shensea, 18 years old.
Coming out on Saba is challenging. Even though the community tolerates homosexuality, they would not fully accept you as a member of the LGBTQ-community. People generally accept homosexual females more than males. They don’t like seeing feminine men. The community is biased, and macho based.
“They tolerate me who I am as long as the LGBTQ aspects stays far away from them.”
I believe my family from far away would support me better than my closest family. I’ve also got certain friends that respect and support me fully. I can express myself openly and be my authentic self around them. Others merely tolerate who I am as long as the LGBTQ aspect stays far away from them.
“The strongest part of me desires to come out”
A part of me would want to come out and not care about the consequences. Another part of me does not want to do it because of my religious family. I also want to avoid reactions and comments from the Christian community. But still the strongest part of me desires to come out. I know that I would feel a weight coming off my shoulders. I would feel liberated.
“I want to be an example to others, so they don’t have to be afraid of being themselves or coming out.”
I see myself being more open in the future and feeling less heavy while being further away from the pressures of my family and religion. I want to be an example to others, so they don’t have to be afraid of being themselves or to come out to their family and community. I want to use my experience to motivate and inspire others who are going through the same thing I went through.