Painful anal sex
Many women and men sometimes have pain during anal sex. The partner who is being penetrated is most likely to experience some pain. So only do it if you’re feeling relaxed. And stop if it hurts.
What causes the pain?
- You haven’t used enough lubricant.
- Your anal sphincter is not relaxed.
- You are being penetrated too deeply.
This is how to avoid pain during anal sex
- Take your time until both of you are aroused.
- Make sure you’re relaxed. A few deep breaths can help.
- Press gently on the anal sphincter; this relaxes the internal sphincter. That makes it easier to have anal sex.
- Use sufficient water-based or silicon-based lubricant.
- Build up the pace gradually. Ask your sex partner if it feels good.
Bleeding and pain in the anus
Do you suffer from pain, irritation or itching in your anus? Or have you noticed bright red blood on the toilet paper? Maybe you have an STI or hemorrhoids (piles). Talk to your doctor about this. Don’t have anal sex if it hurts or if you bleed.