Gay, Lesbian, Bi

Around one in ten women are attracted to other women, or to both women and men. Around one in ten men are attracted to men, or to both men and women. That can be difficult if you are religious, or you grew up between two cultures.

What is what?

  • Gay: You are a man and you mostly or always fall in love with men. You would also like to make love to a man.
  • Lesbian: You are a woman and you mostly or always fall in love with women. You would also like to make love to a woman.
  • Bi: Sometimes you fall in love with a man, but sometimes with a woman. You think you’d like to make love to a woman, but also to a man.


In many cultures, there are negative ideas about homosexuality. If you as a woman came home with another woman, it would be out of place. Your parents and friends perhaps have preconceived ideas about lesbian women, gay men and bisexual people.

Accepting who you are

Are there negative ideas about gay men, lesbian women and bisexual people in your religion or culture? Then it is often difficult to accept who you are. You may feel guilty or ashamed because of it. Don’t just carry it around with you. Seek contact with other people in your situation or talk to someone you trust about it.

Are you afraid of your family?

In some families, having homosexual feelings can be a problem. Maybe you are afraid your family will harm you or others.

Do you fear for your safety? Seek help:

  • Emergency? Call 112/911.
  • Talk to someone you trust. You could perhaps do this with a friend, family member, your mentor at school.
  • If you are under 18 years of age call the children’s helpline, Guana Chat on 918.
  • Call the domestic violence coordinator on +599 416 7266.
  • Violence is against the law. You can call the police on +599 416 3737.